tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post5970149891807868479..comments2023-12-09T22:04:54.837-05:00Comments on BPD Relationship Recovery -- Me Project: Does Time Heal All Wounds?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-14028980881972886022010-07-22T00:00:16.911-04:002010-07-22T00:00:16.911-04:00To the borderline who wrote earlier, I am 6 months...To the borderline who wrote earlier, I am 6 months out of a 4 year relationship with my bipolar ex boyfriend. He now has a new girlfriend and despises me. I miss him dearly. I wonder if borderlines ever miss their ex even when with a new girl. Do they ever remember the good times or love? It hurts to think that I never mattered....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-53451132905833287442009-11-28T15:06:30.498-05:002009-11-28T15:06:30.498-05:00My ex (BPD)said to me that it would be fine if he ...My ex (BPD)said to me that it would be fine if he did not love me. As soon as he had strong feelings for me his insecurities would surface aided and abetted by his paranoia to destroy our relationship. No win situation. He has moved on to his next girlfriend/victim while i still feel empty and damaged. They do not love like us NONS therefore they do not hurt as we do. Everything is a quick fix for them. We were one of those fixes. What he did to me was nothing less than criminal. There should be a register with their names on it. It should be stamped on their foreheads,like the warning on a pack of cigarettes BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH .Hazelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-31723628091209111602009-11-04T08:41:18.997-05:002009-11-04T08:41:18.997-05:00This life is about healing. Healing and creating o...This life is about healing. Healing and creating our personal relationships. Helping others, experience happiness during this journey. <br /><br />Borderline is about creating a path that needs healing, thus leading us blind from our main goal in life. <br /><br />Although there will always be borderlines. If we would all have ours eyes in the same direction (healing), the world would be a much better place...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-8120311690915288522009-11-04T08:19:55.021-05:002009-11-04T08:19:55.021-05:00I am a 36 year old male Borderline. I am one year...I am a 36 year old male Borderline. I am one year into psychoanalysis - which some people say doesnt work, but i am finding invaluable. I historically have had a massive problem with drugs alcohol and sex when in a relationhsip... I have only just realised the link, but whenever there was any perceived abandonment, I would get drunk, take drugs, and have sex with another girl or a prostitute. The guilt afterwards drove me to near suicide. I dated a girl for 6 years and did this, behind her back more than a hundred times. Eventually she got tired of me and I told her what I had done. The release of guilt was a turning oint for me, and since then (5 years ago) I have had two relationships, both of which have worked much better as I am always 100% honest. I am currently expecting my first child, and although the panic arises in me often, I seem to be able to see it fir what it is, simply panic, and am not acting out to relieve it. I do though sympathise with you, and also with your borderline ex. It is a terribly painful illness to both have and to be associated with - perhaps though, more painful to be the sufferer. I can assure you that in the end you will be happy, it sounds like you are a lovely bloke. She though may never find happiness, and live her whole life hurting those she loves. If it makes you feel any better, which it probably wont, the fact she hurt you so much meant she loved you a lot. Sad but true. You didnt waste your time on her though, as Im sure there were times when your love got through to her, and if she is anything like me, I bet she cherishes those moments like no other. You should give yourself a pat on the back for doing your best to help a truly wounded soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com