tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post6098317849314618880..comments2023-12-09T22:04:54.837-05:00Comments on BPD Relationship Recovery -- Me Project: How To Have a Normal Life After A Borderline RelationshipUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-31549370628077337232012-12-03T16:32:57.103-05:002012-12-03T16:32:57.103-05:00i was involved with a borderline for four months. ...i was involved with a borderline for four months. at first it was euphoric. i never felt like that before. the red flags were there as time went by but i just chose to ignore them. she was selfish,sexually active and at first was worried about me leaving the relationship. as time went by a saw a change in her. the person i thought i knew was not for real.she made grand plans about our future and texted me day and night.right to the end she told me how lucky she was to have a friend and lover. the next day she dumped me thru a text and haven't heard from her since. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-45166790477836656742012-07-10T11:54:23.111-04:002012-07-10T11:54:23.111-04:00It is better to be on your own and you are blessed...It is better to be on your own and you are blessed to have parents and a dog plus you are young. I am 54 years old and got dumped very suddenly by someone who I now believe had bpd/npd. I just read facing love addiction by Beattie and it explains alot about why we may have been drawn into the dysfunctional relationship with a borderline. It is so bizarre that they cannot be alone and yet cannot commit or sustain a relationship long term. They leave so many broken hearts and broken lives in their wake. Everyone deserves to give and RECIEVE love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-25591856329378295412011-03-08T19:31:49.960-05:002011-03-08T19:31:49.960-05:00At your suggestion, I read Codependent No More and...At your suggestion, I read Codependent No More and I really identified with this excerpt:<br /><br />"The distortion is bizarre. I will stay because...'He doesn't beat me.' 'She doesn't run around.' 'He hasn't lost his job.' Imagine getting credit for the behaviors we ordinary mortals do as a matter of course. Even if the worst is true. Even if he does beat you. Even if she does run around. Even if he is no longer working. Even with all this, you will then say, 'But I love him/her!' When I respond, 'Tell me what is so lovable?' there is no response. The answer doesn't come, but the power of being emotionally stuck is far greater than the power of reason" (Beattie 100). <br /><br />Since being left by my BPD boyfriend, I have finally moved back to my apartment where we both lived, so I have regained that bit of independence (rather than staying at my parents' house). But socially, I feel more pathetic than ever. I have absolutely no friends (well except my best friend who lives over 1000 miles away) and it makes me feel so old and lonely. Thank God for my dog, at least. Any advice on how to really have a "normal" life when you have no support system, besides parents? I'm 28 yrs. old and I feel like a freak. I wonder if it would be better to try to reconcile with the BPD rather than live the rest of my life alone.EMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-39201689613980479852010-09-29T02:34:49.087-04:002010-09-29T02:34:49.087-04:00I have been amazed to learn I was just with a woma...I have been amazed to learn I was just with a woman with BPD. EVERYTHING I have read has been 100% her and everything written is 100% how I feel. Over the pat 7 months she has ended contact 4 times. The 4th time being last week. The first time it was for 3 weeks. The second time it was for 2 months and the 3rd time it was also 2 months. Again this time it has been 1 week. When she ends contact it is always a different reason and it is ALWAYS how I am wrong. She then blocks my calls her changes her phone number. The reason I always pick up the phone is because I feel she has changed or I feel bad that If I ignore her. I thank God I found this artical and have learned about this! I just ordered the book above "No more Mr. Nice Guy" And as much as I am still greiving over my 4th loss of her. I have made it a pact within myself I will not accept her contact again. I live in Maine and she lives in California. I thank GOD I did not move there as we had talked about!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13802885631445329934noreply@blogger.com