tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post7449054324840263817..comments2023-12-09T22:04:54.837-05:00Comments on BPD Relationship Recovery -- Me Project: BPD Nails on the Back: Borderline AnxietyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-86086188171066909222018-09-05T13:27:39.626-04:002018-09-05T13:27:39.626-04:00appreciatedappreciatedAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01668621216852963233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-3557995696743582772009-12-13T04:33:03.762-05:002009-12-13T04:33:03.762-05:00On one of the many dramas i experienced with my ex...On one of the many dramas i experienced with my ex BPD i moved to stay with my brother. While i was there i received lots of abusive texts. My friend was going through a split at the time and we decided a break away would do us both good. We booked a holiday to sunny climates,Turkey. My ex persued me,changing his tactics to loving me again. I told him i would come back but that there was something i needed to tell him first. I'll never forget that look coming over his face. I was shaking but proceeded to tell him of the holiday. His face changed to a look of reief. You can imagine what he was actualy expecting me to tell him.......... another man.I thought on this occasion that it was to my favour as my holiday was little compared to what he thought. For weeks before i was due to go he treated me so bad. The night before my flight i had to sleep in my car. When there my friend and i had a relaxing time. He constantly text me and topped up my phone so that he could not loose contact. On a funny front,my friend and i bought bikinis,very very tiny bikinis. We had to "trim" our bikini lines,ALOT! The day i arrived home he could not get me into bed quick enough,this was NOT the norm. At first he laughed at my new "hairdo". A week later i was raged at with verbal and texts saying.... The Turks only have sex with you if you let them shave you. I left again after weeks of this but returned. Why? I truly look back and ask myself the same question.hazelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3478275993537591735.post-3934938052246406062009-12-11T12:59:37.065-05:002009-12-11T12:59:37.065-05:00"Breaking up with someone then continuing the..."Breaking up with someone then continuing the relationship, over and over, is a form of abuse"<br /><br />I agree. This is true for BOTH parties. That is why I, as the BPD partner, have told my husband that we just CAN'T get back together. We have been separated one year. Our sweet children are suffering, as all kids do during divorce. They see mom and dad getting along, being civil and courteous, even sharing laughs. So why can't we just all be a family again! Time helps. He has a new girlfriend. I am not fit to be with anyone - yet, or maybe even never. Some people really flick my BPD vengeance switch too much. He is one of those people. All too often, innocently enough, he will say or do something to which I take incredible offence. Usually related to my feeling inadequate COMPARED to him (those infernal, eternal, odious COMPARISONS), then I hate him for making me feel so useless, like such a loser. It doesn't help that he is a model citizen, Clark Kent AND Superman all wrapped up in one, while I am, truthfully, a FLAKE in comparison. Other people don't make me aware of this as much as he does. That is why for both our sakes, to stop the abuse, we cannot get back together. Every other week, one of us will say something like, "I should just sell my house and move back", or "this isn't good for the kids, this is dysfunctional to drag the kids back and forth every week!" But actions count more than words. In the end, neither one of us is taking any action on these words. Thank goodness. It just isn't doable. It is sad, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com