Relationship Breakup Songs, BPD Songs and Others

I recently went through the blog and added videos to all of the songs -- in some places, I added general videos that may not have been there before but were appropriate. Please let me know what you think.

A Multitude of Emotions
When healing from a relationship with someone suffering from borderline personality disorder, it's not like a normal breakup. You feel more raw, more exposed, more hurt than a normal relationship, and you need to heal more. As I've written before (and I'll cover in much more depth in the near future), you have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after a Borderline Breakup. It takes time and counseling for this to subside and heal.

Some of these songs made me break down and cry. I heard Tracy Chapman's Change and pulled my car over and balled. When I heard the Wailin Jennys sing Take It Down I broke down as well. Sarah McLaughlin's Fallen got me also.

All of the emotions weren't bad. From the beginning, I knew that I needed this change but knew how hard it would be. When I started Healing, I looked to The The's This is the Day. This past summer, I was on a tear with laying my troubles down, looking at my life and moving, or daring you to move. I'll hear a song like From Where You Are and realize how we can go back there sometimes and look at the world that we think we had built and miss it, even though it wasn't real.

There are so many more songs that I've interjected into this blog - it's another form of expression for me, and I hope they help provide another element to the emotions that we feel when we're recovering from a borderline relationship.

Raw Emotion
Music emotes our raw emotions. It reaches into our core and pulls out the raw emotion that we're feeling. If we're happy, it hits a happy chord. If we're sad, sad comes out. If we're hurting, the pain comes out.

It should come out. The emotions should come out. If they don't, you may be hiding them. Let them go. Give them away to the music and get lost in the music. We spend too much of our lives trying to hold on, when maybe we should let go a little more and let life take you where you need to go.

Why Can't I Love You

Should I be sorry, how was I supposed to know
This isn’t how I wanted to go
Seemed so cold

I can’t remember when I started to pretend
Happiness was happening again
I should have known

Seemed so perfect
Held you close to
Close to notice
I couldn’t breathe

Why can’t I love you I can’t let you in
Questioning everything I thought you said
Tell me I’m crazy for burning our bed
And though I didn’t wanna go, but it’s the only thing I know

Sorry, seems another word to say
When your love is going away
You’ll be fine

Someday, maybe in a week or two
You’ll see what I mean to you
Change your mind

Seemed so perfect
Held you close to
Close to notice
I couldn’t breathe

Why can’t I love you I can’t let you in
Questioning everything I thought you said
Tell me I’m crazy for burning our bed
And though I didn’t wanna go, but it’s the only thing I know

Why can’t I love you I can’t let you in
Questioning everything I thought you said
Tell me I’m crazy for burning our bed
And though I didn’t wanna go, but it’s the only thing I

Why can’t I love you I can’t let you in
Questioning everything I thought you said
Tell me I’m crazy for burning our bed
And thought I didn’t wanna go, but it’s the only thing I know

 - Serena Ryder



This is the perfect song that a borderline could sing to their lover -- you just can't let them in...