Ironically, there are still things that still haunt me about her. I still watch out for her over my back, particularly when I'm in the mall or other places where she used to frequent. More on that in future posts.
You Can Live a Normal Life After a BPD Relationship
After living in the crazy world of the borderline, you can go back to normal. It may take you time to heal (and you may suffer some Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), but you can get back to normal.
One of the most important parts of getting back to normal is severing as much contact as possible. Depending on the borderline and the severity of their illness, keeping contact with them can become a large liability.
At the end of the relationship, the borderline that I was dating was beginning to get violent. Not only that, there were times that, during an argument, she threatened calling the police if I came over.
The last thing that I want is to get involved with the law over a relationship. It becomes a game of 'she said, he said,' which ultimately is no win.
Ironically, I got a phone call from the police recently where she had contacted them accusing me of breaking into her computer, cyberstalking her and posting things using her Facebook account. She also accused me of breaking into her vehicle and marking up her seats. This had evidently not been the first time that she had contacted the police as they said that the year before, she accused me of slashing her tires.
Just so we're clear, at this point, I had been in a serious relationship and actually had married as well. I wonder what my wife would think it I had actually done this.
I actually went to the police station and had to issue a statement to these allegations. I asked the officer what I needed to do to make sure that these kinds of allegations did not continue. He politely informed me that he suspected that they would stop at this point. They have (this was in 2013).
Post script -- it's now 2017 (nearly 10 years after the relationship) -- I haven't heard from her at all. Things can get back to normal, but it does take time.
Just so we're clear, at this point, I had been in a serious relationship and actually had married as well. I wonder what my wife would think it I had actually done this.
I actually went to the police station and had to issue a statement to these allegations. I asked the officer what I needed to do to make sure that these kinds of allegations did not continue. He politely informed me that he suspected that they would stop at this point. They have (this was in 2013).
Post script -- it's now 2017 (nearly 10 years after the relationship) -- I haven't heard from her at all. Things can get back to normal, but it does take time.
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