Tuesday, April 20, 2010

10 Steps To Recover from A BPD Relationship

Recovering from a BPD Relationship is a difficult endeavor. Some would say that it's the toughest thing that they'll ever do. For some, it will be the toughest thing that they'll do.

Let me tell you, you can do it. You can live through this and be the person you always wanted to be when you get out of it.

Follow these simple steps, and you'll have no problem getting yourself through the BPD recovery process.

*Note: Some of these steps are intermingled, inter-tangled, and interdependent. You will often be working on step 6, then slip into step 1. They are not a step-by-step guide, but you will walk through these steps in the process.

How long will it take to heal from a dysfunctional relationship? They say that it takes you approximately one year to heal from every two years that you were in a relationship. For dysfunctional relationships (particularly BPD relationships), double this time, and you should be safe.

Bonus For Finishing
Here's the beautiful thing that you'll discover from this guide: When you're done with these steps, you will emerge a person who is much better than before you entered the relationship with the BPD.

One more thing -- this recovery guide can be applied to BPD relationships or general relationships also. After all, you don't have to be BPD to be in a dysfunctional relationship, or any relationship gone bad, for that matter. All of these recovery steps can be applied to a regular relationship and will help you grow.

The 10 Relationship Recovery Steps

1. Feel the pain
2. Let yourself heal
3. Do the work
4. Start a Me Project
5. Reinforce (or build) your support group, then flex it
6. Find others that have been there and have felt the pain
7. Find spiritual fulfillment
8. Accept yourself
9. Learn to love yourself
10. Recognize that you are a Work in Progress

In upcoming posts, look for each of these steps fully outlined, described and detailed with examples. Stay tuned.

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