Thursday, December 10, 2009

Goodbye My Lover: BPD Breakup Song

Did I disappoint you or let you down?
Should I be feeling guilty or let the judges frown?
'Cause I saw the end before we'd begun,
Yes I saw you were blinded and I knew I had won.
So I took what's mine by eternal right.
Took your soul out into the night.
It may be over but it won't stop there,
I am here for you if you'd only care.
You touched my heart you touched my soul.
You changed my life and all my goals.
And love is blind and that I knew when,
My heart was blinded by you.
I've kissed your lips and held your hand.
Shared your dreams and shared your bed.
I know you well, I know your smell.
I've been addicted to you.

Chorus (2x)
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I am a dreamer and when I wake,
You can't break my spirit - it's my dreams you take.
And as you move on, remember me,
Remember us and all we used to be
I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile.
I've watched you sleeping for a while.
I'd be the father of your child.
I'd spend a lifetime with you.
I know your fears and you know mine.
We've had our doubts but now we're fine,
And I love you, I swear that's true.
I cannot live without you.

Chorus (2x)
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

And I still hold your hand in mine.
In mine when I'm asleep.
And I will bear my soul in time,
When I'm kneeling at your feet.

Chorus (2x)
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I'm so hollow, baby, I'm so hollow.
I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.

This was the song that the Borderline listened to over and over again after we first broke up the first time, three weeks into the relationship. You can see that this is way too much for a young relationship to handle. It's just too much.

This is the song you sing to someone that you've been married with, or have been with a number of years, not three weeks.

I should have known, but such adoration is tough to turn down.


  1. back to bedlam how appropriate !!!!! my ex borderline sang this song also but i think its more apt for a non borderline to sing these lyrics

  2. I met the sweetest girl and had the most romantic, passionate and loving relationship for over a year. Never a fight. She shared her very troubled past of abuse but was so wonderful and caring and desperate to be with me. She went out of her way and called all the time. The only problem was every few months she had a horrific story that a friend or family member was suffering. She distanced herself but called all day and all seemed well. We talked about marriage, kids and spent most days hold hands and laughing and being affectionate. It was so good. Then one day she called and said she was moving home to the mid west after 20 years away. We talked and agreed to get married. Our romance hit a high of passion and joy. She left vowing to return. She asked me to go there after a bit and work then we'd return together. I agreed and before I went recieved a letter saying she was marrying someone else. I had a nervous break down and couldnt function for months. To make a long story short. She finally called saying the wedding was off but by that point I had discovered through a friend that I wasnt even her boyfriend. She had been cheating on her boyfriend with me for over a year with the most sincere loving smile. I'm sure others existed too. It became obvious that all her horror stories were fabrications. A total fraud. Even when busted she denies all and plays victim. She let me believe it was my fault. The boyfriend was dumped a month before me and destroyed too. This caused me more pain then anything I've ever experienced. Psychological damage. Panic attacks. 6 months of bawling like a baby. I will get better but will never be the same.

  3. I left my wife of 4 years for a bpd 16 years younger than me - crazy I know. The most compelling, attractive, seductive, engaging, vulnerable, spirited woman I have ever met. She took me through all the stages - her tragic life story - alcoholic father, rape, child abuse, poverty etc, idealisation ... I intuited something was wrong and asked for a break....she hoovered me back only to dump me for someone I had introduced her too and started a passionate relationship with him. It's nearly broken me.... totally surreal experience - i miss her like crack - her loving and sex was like heroin and knowing she is with someone I know is killing me. Not sure if I am lucky to have got out early but the break-up is taking longer to recover from than usual.... the song resonates... good luck to everyone in recovery.... keep the faith and NC for ever.


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